I find it interesting that your friend Cary was miffed not at your visit to Mom but that you scheduled it to avoid Meghan. Didn't he think that odd - as in why is she avoiding her, is there something wrong with Meghan? Sorry, but a bit of a dim bulb your Cary, or too soused from the Kool-Aid he's been sipping to note the problem. No one has enough friends that they can lose them wholesale but people easily swayed by negative comments and disparaging remarks are trolls themselves, just one step removed. Narcissist comes to mind. Good on your resolve.