It’s been my experience that mean people become mean, they generally don’t start out that way.

They attempt something, they fail, and they hold on to that failure. Owning it 100% is difficult, so they push the blame onto others. Who? Doesn’t matter. Their parents, teachers, coaches, friends, girlfriends, all eventually have a role in it. Not spotting the right reason for the failure, they never resolve it, never find out what caused it, so they are destined to repeat. And on goes the cycle. Failure. Anger. Blame. Regret.

Ultimately we are all responsible for who we are and what we do. Blame doesn’t enter into it. If something happens, it’s our life, we have to fix it, even if someone else actually caused the problem. Who else is there?

Anger is responsibility that can’t be managed, can’t be accepted, can’t be sorted out. That’s what mean people use instead of reason.