Renting sucks - always has, always will.
1 out of 10 landlords are great; 2 out of 10 are fair; 5 out of 10 are tone deaf and the remaining 2 - don't ask. Use whatever local state or Fed programs are available for first buyers. We did with help from Mom 25 years ago.
For my small house in LA, I can sell it and buy a 5000 square foot house in Texas. But it's Texas?!
I'm happy with my home, happy you're happy too.